Maybe its just me..

Today I came across examples of a situation everyone has been in, or has been in before, with that said, I have a question that I might not even know the answer to myself since I too have been guilty of it.  


Why do men and woman try to save a relationship that has gone past it's expiration date?  


An ex boyfriend whom I was with for many years caused me to fall into this pattern, we loved eachother but we would constantly argue, accuse each other of things that might not have happened.. we broke up multiple times, kept talking throughout the years.. and till this day he will occasionally email me.


I just want to know why we do it. If two people find that they are incompatible, all the love in the world can't help it, because after the war begins of who can hurt whom the worst occurs, nothing is ever the same again. 


Every single day I come across someone who is arguing with their significant other on the phone or even with them in the street. at what point do we just say, "okay, enough is enough" and just walk away? we always have to get the last word, we always have to post things on social networks or messengers thinking they will see it and feel horrible. I know, because I've done it.  I'm not saying that when every relationship has a snag, or pebble in the happy road of love that its time to call it quits, but once it becomes a constant struggle where you don't even want to see them, talk to them or be around them and all you want to do is make eachother miserable, I think thats when its time to let go.


I wish I had known this many years ago, I tried so hard to save something that wasn't even worth it anymore. I understand when you have invested so much time and emotions in someone, it can be hard to let go, which is why sometimes we become jaded hating our ex's, giving our friends bad advice and the whole nine.. that wasn't what I did, but I've seen some do it.. 


Now that I am older I know when to just let things go when it doesn't work with someone I'm dating... I still make many of the mistakes people make because I am human, but I recognize them faster.. which is why I am single, I am in a weird place emotionally.. but thats just a topic for another blog.. I just know, at this point in my life I have no time to spare to be in a back and forth circle with someone..


What do you guys think about the subject of letting someone go before it becomes a warzone? do you think its worth it to fight sometimes? let me know, I am interested in others opinions on the subject.

Xoxo 
Carolyn.